I Don’t Do Mudik This Year (2008)

3 10 2008

 

This is the first time in my life, I feel soooo empty in my heart because I could not go to Surabaya in the Lebaran or Eid Mubarak occasion, to see my mama, my mother, father, my sisters, and my other families.  When I was a child, one night before Eid Mubarak, together with neighbours as old as I was and my sisters, cousins, we played “kembang api” or fireworks. We also helped our parents to make “Lebaran Cookies” to serve to any guests who visited to our house.  I still remember those moments…make me happy. 

 

What is “Mudik Lebaran”? Mudik is a tradition for muslims in Indonesia. They will go back to their home, the once they get belong.  They will ask apologize, especially for their biological parents. Nobody knows when this tradition was begun for the first time. The simplest explanation about “mudik” you can read here.

 

   

Playing with my nephews remind me while I was a child in the night before Eid Mubarak

 

 

Me (no 2 from right), with my cousins    Me with all my extended family!!

How much I miss you, guys!!!





What We Do in the Eid Mubarak Celebration (1)

3 10 2008

 

After we pray together with another muslim people in the square or big mosque we go home. Sometimes we take some pics in the area of praying :

 

     

 

At home, mostly Javanese people ask forgiveness from their parents or the older ones (such as uncle, auntie or grandpa/ma). The people used the occasion of Eid Mubarak to make reunion and gathering with their families, relatives and friends.

The tradition to ask the apologize among Javanese people is called “sungkeman”, started with the oldest generation one by one until the youngest in the family. The parents or the older person in the family will give their forgiveness to their children and give some advices, prayers and hopes.

 

   

Those pics above was taken at 2006

 

Then we go out, visit other families, relatives or close friends. When we visit the older relatives or someone to be honoured in the extended amily, sure we will do the rites of  “sungkeman” again to admire them. For me, is interesting while a man alwasy get the first opportunity to do the rites.

 

    

 

By this holy occasion, the people meet their cousins, nephew, grandson/daughter, and other relatives in the informal situation. Even we made rujak!

    





I LOVE EID MUBARAK

2 10 2008

 

All muslims in the world celebrate Eid Mubarak, after they were fasting for a month. This year, on 2008 the festival is held between Sept 30 or Oct 1st.  In Indonesia, people usually pray together in the big mosque or in the square, in “bahasa Indonesia” it called “alun-alun”. The area for pray fully not only with adults, but also the children. A muslim family who go to pray for Eid Mubarak, usually take their whole family, not only the nuclear family, but also their extended family.

My sis catched this pic just a moment before we pray.

 

   

Me (no 2 from the left) and my family       Look at the children among us!

 

and…let’s pray together…Allahu Akbar!!

 

After doing “sholat Eid”, we listened somebody speak about this holy day for muslims. But…not every people listened him. Some people went away, leave the “alun-alun”. Some parents buy toys and ballons for their children.

 

   

Sure, it’s not balloon’s festival!!

 

 

People left so many newspaper’s sheets in the ground! They used them as a cover to protect their clothes from the sand and dust.

      

 

And then, people buy foods in the wayside of the street. They were hungry!!

                      

    

                                                  Her foods were sold out! Look at her pouch!





SKYPE : a place where people in the world can meet and talk

2 10 2008

 

Who does not know Skype? This is a popular software that enable the users make not only chat by typing but also a phone call by internet. I used this software less than a year ago, and I got many benefit by using it. I could make a meeting with some of my colleagues from other countries. For example, in the next November 19-20, there will be arranged an international Asia-Pacific region meeting in my hometown, Yogyakarta. The commitees come from different countries, such as Switzerland, Japan, Nepal and Indonesia.  Skype made possible the meeting was running well. We make important decision with typing and send messages to another colleagues.

 

         

Mostly I put those 2 pics in the Skype for the public.

 

I write about Skype is not for popularizing it. I make this story based on my experience in using Skype. Sure the owner of the Skype does not pay me to say about his software!

                   

The symbol of skype                      The display of skype

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There are some benefits of using skype. First, you can meet different people with different culture from all over the world. You can learn different cultures from different countries. Of course you can learn or improve the certain language with the natives! For me, learning different cultures from different countries  can reduce bad stereotypes among people in the world. Second, you can reach your friends — anywhere they are,  although they have different email accounts from you.

 

You can choose the person you want to add into your list. Look at the second pic above who portray the display of Skype. You can click button : Search for Skype Users, and then you will find the box like this (look at the pic below). IF you don’t want to waste your time to search, just change your online status. The easier to get some new friends if you choose “Skype Me” mode. I did it sometimes if I feel tired and need some refreshment. One thing you must be aware with this mode: everybody could catch you and ask you to add them into your chat list.  If you are lucky, you will get a good friend.

 

 blog.tmcnet.com/…/skype-search-for-users.jpg

Sometimes you want to talk only with few person and not with the others.  Skype provides some choices for you. You can choose one of them based on your situation. For me, personally I prefer to choose invisible, away or not available. It just because I do not spend all my time in the front of my laptop and chat with my friends in Skype.  I’m a lecturer and a researcher in a university. I have so many tasks to do. I have some classes and I have some students under my supervision to finish their final thesis. I have to attend some meetings also, but in the other side, I need some important informations from my colleagues who have account in skype. That’s why I choose that three options.

 

This picture below shows some choices for you to online.

 

I have friends from some countries. They come from Argentina, Australia, Bangladesh, Bolivia, China, Columbia, Cuba, Egypt, France, Greece, India, Italy, Jamaica, Japan, Jordan, Kuwait, Malaysia, Mexico, the Nederland, Spain, US, UK, Ukraine, Uruguay, Russia,  Rwanda, Saudi Arabia, South Africa, Nepal, Philippines and also from my country, Indonesia. I try to make friendship with people from Latin America, because now I’m studying Spanish (or Castilian language). My Spanish teacher, suggested to me and other students to make friendship with people from Spain or Latin America to improve our capability to speak in Spanish. I followed her suggestion. Now I have an online teacher from Argentina. Her name is Monica. She is beautiful, nice and very kind. She helped me to improve my vocabularies and how to talk in Spanish. The same thing also did by some of my friends from Latin America’s countries.  My friend, Felipe from Mexico always talk in Spanish, although he could speak english fluently, even if I speak in english with him. He always said, “You must drive yourself very hard to learn spanish, Dina!”

 

Not only making friendship, I also make my “virtual family” through Skype. I have virtual father, brothers and sister! Of course they are not my relatives within the bloodline, but we talk and share as a family. My “father”, I call him “Papa Ivan”, is a Columbian man, his age is as old as my real mother. He always give me many advices and says “be a good daughter, ok?”. My “brothers and sisters”…they are very interesting! All of them are Italians! My “brothers”, Luigi and Claudio are from Modena and Bologna.  One of my brother call me “Luna”, it means the moon, because he asked me to call him “Sole”, means the sun. He said, luna is the sister from sole. How’s nice! My “sister”, Lara, she is from Treviso. Actually I met her in Manila, while I attended an important meeting with an international NGO. She uses Skype, and then we always greet and talk to each other! I’m wondering if I could put their pics in this blog! I will ask them first. I won’t talk about them in particularly or give a lot of information about them here. Its enough for you, the readers, to know their name are Ivan, Luigi, Claudio and Lara. You will find more than 90 names for each of them on Skype! I still try to find a virtual mother for me….

 

      

My “papa” Ivan                        My funny and lovely “sister” from Treviso

 

Mostly of my friends are men. Once I try to make a friendship with some women. They are from Nigeria, Afghanisthan, UK, Japan, Mexico and Peru. Only one replied me and asked me : “are you lesbian?” O, my God!! Since that “incident” I doubt to make friendship with any women through skype.  I still hope to get some nice women to be my friend…and maybe she does not mind to be my virtual “mother”.

 

BUT…!!

You perhaps find some annoying persons who catch you while you are online in any modes. Firstly they look nice and offer friendship. But you can not guarantee your first sight. Some people then try to do a kind of impolite actions. Such as, they ask you to give your picure with this question : “do you have naked pics?” Please share to me!” Men sometimes did it. tSure, you can ignore them or not to share your details to them or remove them from your contact. If somebody wants to ask you to change your details with him/her, you must be careful. If you feel uncomfortable, or you don’t believe him/her, just ignore. Its easy.

 

This pic is a sample of the invitation from someone.  You have 4 options, and you can choose one or two choices to decide if you want somebody to be your friend and add her/him or not. Thanks to  flickr.com/photos/skemsley/2281764249 for this pic.

 

SURE…

You also find some people who use Skype for “certain” purpose. You can try to click the button “search”, and then a box will appear for you. Tick the box below with the words : search for people who are in ‘SkypeMe”‘ mode. You also could tick the gender. Tick the gender ‘do not specify’ first, or ‘female’, and then click “FIND”. Look at what you get!!





Government Role in the Violation of LGBT Rights in Southern Africa, by Marceline Yudith

18 09 2008

Generally people would acknowledge the violation of LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender) as merely a fault of stigma among the society. Other people would also claim about the role of media exposure. But the truth is, another culprit behind all that happened these years is the role of the government, altough, perhaps it is not as obvious as other catalyst. Or in a different perspective, we could also say that the government, as the third factor, is the one behind the scene of the other two factors. In the matter of fact, the relations between the role of the governments in Southern Africa has a strong red thread with the fact that most countries in Southern Africa had just got their independency around the 1990s. But we must also see, who was been actually blamed for the stigma of society and the ‘entrance’ of LGBT people in southern Africa: the western imperialism. Is the western imperialism really a significant factor who contributed much for the LGBTs case, or is it just merely a scapegoat? We will see on how this factor play in the history of Southern Africa, and the relations with the bad track record of LGBT rights. And then, finally we would be able to see how this issue goes, starting from how the stigma shaped the paradigm of people in countries of Southern Africa.

    As we know, the continent of Southern Africa, based on UN data1, consist of Namibia, Botswana, Zimbabwe, Mozambique, Swaziland, South Africa and Lesotho. And also, as additional, Angola (also included in Central Africa), Mozambique and Madagascar (also included in East Africa), Malawi-Zambia-Zimbabwe (in other versions also added in Southern Africa territory), and also Comoros-Mauritius-Seychelles-Mayotte-Reunion (small islands near Indian ocean and mainland of East Africa). The close continent within countries, despite of some geographical condition, allows quite good relations among the countries of Southern Africa. But it may be because of these good relation that almost all of these countries share the same negative stigma of LGBT’s: the homophobic law. It is only Botswana and Namibia who start to had tolerance toward LGBT rights, along with some NGO’s, the Christian churces campaign against intolerance for the LGBTs. But later on, recently South Africa had start a quite significant progress and had became the fifth country in the world approving same sex marriage, after Netherland, Canada, Belgium and Spain2. Later on at the end of the paper we will discuss more about the issue in South Africa. But the main point here is, as we know, the homophobic law in Southern Africa continent had two main catalyst: the HIV issue and the media exposure.

    It is first because of the media, that the paradigm of women and men among the society had been shaped in such way: a women should act as a “women” and men as a “men”. Literally we could see them in the media, such as commercials, magazines. There are a lot of statements which is undirectly describing what is a woman or men like, or what they should do, and thus the society sooner or later will follow. For example, in some magazines we could see on how a woman should behave to be a “lady”, how they should dress or wear make up, etc. Second, it is because of the high rate of AIDS death among the society that has been rising year by year, and in a vicious cycle of issue that HIV was spread by doing sex, when we couldn’t actually know how it started or how it could be ended, and somehow the LGBTs are the one who was blamed for. People may think, it is because the unnormal sex relations between men and men or women and women, it may be the main cause of HIV, or it also could be because the lack of information that sex is the only main reason of the HIV spreading. So we could say, first people already got the ideal image of men and women, as had been transmitted from generation from generation, plus the effect of media exposure. LGBTs consider gender as a role, and general people describe gender as sex itself (biologically men or women). Then comes the HIV issue and there goes the trigger of LGBT rights discrimination. Nowadays AIDS issue is still a very serious issue in Africa, especially because the antidote is very expensive, and most countries in Africa are poor countries with less resources.

    Next, we will see on how western imperialism is related to the issue, but first, to make the linkback easier, we have to start with noting that the role of media in Southern Africa are generally controlled under the government. Later we will also see on how this is also linked to the imperialism issue. For the citizens of Southern Africa, as what they perceive from their government, the entrance of the LGBT people was the fault of the European people when the imperialism’s influence start to shows it’s effect in Africa, especially during the cold war. Since the Suez, the trade route, was closed for around six days during the cold war, then the Europeans had begun to seek another route. The result is the discovery of the Cape Sea route by the East Indian Companies (EIC)3. After then, the access from Europe to Africa is widely opened. Speaking of which, we must see the entrance of the Europeans not as merely a newcoming race to a certain territorry, but also a newcoming system, beliefs, multistructure (including media and even possibly-more or less-governmental system), etc. As one example, we could see on how president of Zimbabwe, Robert Mugabe, abolish GALZ (Gay And Lesbian of Zimbabwe) activities and any contents related to LGBTs, like what happened in the Zimbabwe International Book Fair (ZIBF), 1st August 1995, held in Harare3. The theme was “human rights and justice”, and the books published during the fair included LGBT content books, while in the other hand the campaign for intolerance of LGBTs had been launched for around seven years. The government, who realized the existence of LGBT related contents in the books launched in the book fair, forced GALZ to withdraw from the event4.

    In the other side, the abolishment of media contented with LGBT related are quite common in countries around Southern Africa. It is not just Zimbabwe who are exercising the government power to do so, but also in other countries, including the country led by Sam Nujoma, Namibia. We could also see the same point, speaking of the LGBT genocide in Rwanda a few years ago5, which was justified by the government himself. The point is, the role of the media is indeed very important toward the influence of people’s paradigm, and if the media is too much controlled by the government, it means that the government undirectly had a very strong control over the society, even for justifying the actions taken by the government or some other power source within the country. A paradigm is a very vital state of taking over people’s mind in order to control them. And when this issue comes to a critique, that the government had too much power toward the press, the government had stated it’s reply: this tradition is brought by the imperialism, and even in European countries such as UK, there are no newspaper or other press critisizing the government, so this kind of actions inside their country in Southern Africa is justified, since it was merely “a tradition brought by the western imperialism”.  And so we could say, that the press in Southern Africa were also used by the government to attack the white people, as a scapegoat behind the reason of bringing LGBT people to enter African countries6.

    Anyhow, now we will see how the government and the identity of countries take place in this issue. As we may predict, a lot of foreign NGO’s were trying to attempt to give a hand for solving the violation problem upon LGBTs. LGBTs in most of Southern Africa countries have no constitution rights, but without cooperation of the government, these effort would be difficult. Some Southern African governments, especially Robert Mugabe, the president of Zimbabwe, is one of those who keeps insisting that LGBT people are destroying the unity of the country. In other word, he is demonizing LGBT people. LGBT people in Southern Africa has been violated, isolated and exiled from the society and have difficulties for like searching jobs. They don’t have any constitutional rights even in their homeland, even the communities supporting them, such as local NGOs are threaten by the denial of their legal status. Moreover, when the situation gets into chaos, the LGBTs will be hunted and murdered, just like what happened in South Africa during the celebrations of women day: lesbians were hunted and executed massively. Up until now, the president of South Africa, Thabo Mbeki, still stand idly by. It is only the police who start to investigate the case, but seems like they didn’t consider the case as a serious crime7.

    Moving to see the historical background of Southern Africa countries, most of them had just got their independency around the 1990s. This means that most countries in Southern Africa is still a young country, thus the biggest probability is they are not settled in the governmental system, including the system for the LGBT rights. But this is not the main problem. Since the unsettled government system would likely be a handycap toward the unity of the country, some of the Southern Africa government would make preference toward the settlement of the country, in order to avoid chaos. This is merely not a problem, if the homophobic law didn’t exist in the first place. Robert Mugabe for example, seems has been aware of this situation. Knowing that homophobic law has grown very strong among the society, he use this situation to gain power. As we know that the situation of the unsettled governmental system and chaos among people would anyway force the government to gain more power, whether it is for abuse purpose or unity purpose, and therefore they had to find settlement by approach toward former and traditional power that already exist among the society. And since the society were likely having a gigantic fear toward LGBT people, especially because of the HIV issue, this is a chance for the government to solve the problem, follow the stream and gain more power. All along the governments are trying to gain supports from social groups and Christian church, in order to emphasize that LGBTs are a sin, and therefore the society shall not give any mercy or tolerance. Even campaigns are held everywhere, some country leader were even giving open speech, saying that LGBT people is a disease toward the country’s union, they are deviant people who never deserve equal right from the very beginning. So now we just see on how the government take place in rising the homophobic law among the society.

    Mugabe, in his open speech during one of his campaign, said8: “ Homosexuality degrades human dignity. It’s unnatural and there’s no question even of allowing these people to behave worse than dogs and pigs.” And in other speech he also stated: “ What we are being persuaded to accept sub-animal behaviour and we we will never allow it here. If you see people parading themselves as lesbians and gays, arrest them and hand them over to the police.” These is how the leaders of Southern African country dig a hole to plant the root of homophobic law within the society’s mindset. Other Southern African leader such as Sam Nujoma also did the same9, and supported what Mugabe had stated in the very first place. So it is now clearly seen and described on how the government plays a very important role and how it is contributed toward the violation rights of the LGBT people in Southern Africa.

    And since there are no such draft of constitutional rights of LGBTs, it is very hard to solve their violation rights cases, and even more, to equalize their constitutinal rights with the other ‘straight’ citizens, since all the constitution are built based on the old system of relationship between men and women. But the next problem here is, even international law cannot be relied on. As been mentioned and discussed by Roger Alford, a professor from Pepperdine University of Law, California, in his opinio juris blog10, “ The (international) court emphasize that international law is only for expanding rights, not to contract them.” It means, that there are no such international law who could be fully relied on for such right, nor to prohibit them, and this we could also see that there are no such perfect law. The path usually taken by some countries is usually ratifying the international law, but in the other hand it takes time to legalize the law within the local country, and even more, to plant them within the society’s mindset. It would be very difficult without the support of the government, especially when the society is still haunted by the homophobic law, then the government would just simply said: “the society don’t want it”.

    In times like this, it is very difficult for us to say that the rights of LGBT people in countries could be restored properly. Although some progress had been seen in Namibia, and Botswana who had the cooperation of the church, but generally the people still believe in the homophobic law, and therefore left the Southern Africa countries with the majority of homophobia society. However, South Africa, these days had start a new resolution for the LGBT people by approving the same sex marriage and had been the fifth country applying the system. President Thabo Mbeki had accept and implement homosexual policy and the legislation2, and planned to ratify the international law, altough the support is unoutspoken, and therefore there are no full guarantee that this law would be effectively implemented. Foreign NGO’s are trying to lay a hand of these problems, approaching the governments to solve the LGBT problems, but anyway if there are no such cooperation from the government any effort would be useless, especially if the government abolish such LGBT right campaign inside their territory. But since progress had been made, hopefully it could slow but sure spread among the society.

 

BIBLIOGRAPHY

 

[1] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Southern_Africa

[2] http://encarta.msn.com/encyclopedia_761557321_13/South_Africa. html#p193

[3] http://www.hrw.org/reports/2003/safrica/index.htm#TopOfPage

[4] Letter from the Ministry of Information, Posts, and Telecommunications’ director of information, Bornwell Chakaodza, to Mrs. Trish Mbanga, executive director of the Zimbabwe International Book Fair, July 24, 1995.

[5[ http://www.afrol.com/Categories/Gay/q002_brc_statement.htm

[7] http://hrw.org/english/docs/2007/08/08/safric16617.htm

[6] “Zimbabwe President renews attack on homosexuals,” Ecumenical News International, April 29, 1998.

[ 8]  South African News Agency SAPA, BBC summary of World Broadcast, August 3, 1995.

[9] http://www.afrol.com/Categories/Gay/q002_brc_statement.htm

[10] http://lawofnations.blogspot.com/2005/12/international-law-in-south-africa-gay_02.html

http://hrw.org/english/docs/2007/08/08/safric16617.htm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Mugabe

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thabo_Mbeki

 

 

 





Paz y Amor

22 05 2008

My friend, senor Tierre sent me a kind of “magic words” for help me to sleep. He said, if I repeat that words many times, slowly with all my feeling, so I can sleep faster than usual. He also added that I have to imagine in my mind the spirit within the poem. I did practice his idea and…voila! It was running well! Mil gracias, senor!

 

Paz y Amor

let there be peace in the oceans
let the wind kiss your face
and let the seas bathe your skin
see the birds as they climb
see the sun; and the moon; and the stars

 
they will say: we love you

 

 





The Police, The Guardian : Somebody with a gun

21 05 2008

I always fascinated with the figure of a policeman or a guardian. I found some types of them with different uniform. Look at these pictures below!

These 3 pictures describes some types of policemen and guardian at Jordan

 Policeman at Amman   Petra\'s Guardian   petra2

    Pic 1                                     Pic 2                               Pic 3                              

Pic 1 : Policeman at Amman, Jordan. I took this pic secretly, because this man told me that taking a picture with a policeman in Amman could be categorize as a crime…thanks to mbak Ade, my friend who took this pic

Pic 2 : A guardian at Petra’s Palace. This man is looking after the Petra’s Palace. One of his respnsbility is make sure that visitors do not enter too far into the palace.

Pic 3 : Two policemen was riding horses, they controlled the situation at Petra. Petra is one of popular tourism at Jordan

 And…

I found them at Delhi!

Guardian at Lotus Temple    guardian   hidden guard

pic 4:                                                   Pic  5                     Pic 6

Pic 4 presents a guardian at Lotus Temple, Delhi. Pic 5 and 6 portray 2 guardians at Red Fort, Delhi. Almost all tourist places at Delhi, especially the famous one such as Taj Mahal or holy places such as Mathura and Krishna’s Temple, some guardians or policemen/policewomen are available.

 





Taj Mahal

21 05 2008

  take a rest      the beautiful Taj Mahal      Me, at Taj Mahal

 Perhaps, if somebody wants to go to India, he/she would get advice : Don’t forget to visit Taj Mahal. Its a legend. Well, yes, I agree with that.  Then, I got second chance to go to India, I decided to extend my trip for 3 days with my friends from Indonesia. We went to Agra by a tour bus, and we have to pay Indian Rs 350 each or about Rp 85.000. It was very cheap, than rent a car. You must pay Indian Rs 3000-4000 or about US$ 90-100 for 8 hours. In fact, you need more than 12 hours for roundtrip from Delhi to Agra. We started leave Delhi at 7am on Tuesday, and we were already in Delhi at 3am on Wednesday!

 

 





Public Phone at Delhi’s Streets

21 05 2008

The Public Phone at Delhi

I want show you a unique picture about public phone! You can find a kind of public phone like this at all around Delhi’s streets!

Other kind of public phone 

I found this public phone while I went to Agra





India, I come back to you!

9 03 2008

Our HouseOur House

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